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Title: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on June 19, 2012, 09:15:53 pm
First off I want to thank Lee Myer for his book and information. There are very few people who would as much, so freely. The information in your book and website has been a Godsend so far.

I am 43, no major illnesses, but an exsmoker and never ever worked out or ate well. After I quit smoking several years ago I did gain weight, but not too much. Anyway, I have always had what I considered to be anxiety related issues with sex- especially with a first time experience with someone new. Of course its only grown more problematic with age. Over the past few years I have noticed it gettting worse and started avoiding talking to women out of several bad experiences where they did not handle my problem very well...which only makes it worse.
I also recently met a beautiful lady who I have begun becoming intimate with, and already I had one "failure to launch"..so this needs to kick in quick!
I haven't had my T tested (I have no health insurance, so there is that) but I don't suspect it is the problem.
Anyway, I have finally decided to not allow this to go on anymore and to do something about it. I started working out a few months ago, eating better (not a vegetarian, just can't do it yet) and taking supplements. But most of the supplements just made it worse at times.
In comes Peak T, and I think I understand why to some extent. I was trying herbs and formulas that weren't addressing my health issues.
So I am now on a good multivit. I just started ALA/ALC as per the book, and I just got S-PS today, although I havent tried it yet.
Also
Fish oil
Pycnogenal
vit C/Magnesium/zinc
CoQ 10

And I have added most of the suggestions to my diet (Beets, apple/pomengranate juice, cacao, etc)


So the journey begins. I just had to join and thank the author as well as some posters here, as I have been lurking now for a bit and the info has been great.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: kcwebguy on June 20, 2012, 12:30:08 am
Welcome! This will likely be one of the most important journeys of the rest of your life. Forget everything you thought you knew about nutrition and wellness. Take lots of deep breaths and just read and read and read. Don't go crazy with the supplements. Focus on changing your diet and exercise.

“Patience, Neo. The answers are coming.” —Morpheus to Neo

“Welcome to the real world.” —Morpheus to Neo

Also, pay the money to see a doc, get your blood drawn with a T level check. It's worth it. And there are many low cost testosterone treatments available if you need it. And you probably need it, friend.  8)
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 20, 2012, 05:24:46 am
Hey, I genuinely appreciate the encouragement and am glad something has helped.  My goal was always to save men the hours and hours and hours of research that I had to do when I first started out.

I've just got a few minutes here so that I follow my own advice and actually get a little sleep at least:

1.  I very much agree with kcwebguy:  you want to figure out some way to work with a doc.  There are ways to manage it so that it's not too expensive.  But erectile dysfunction and potentially low testosterone should always be treated as medical conditions.  I know that may sound overly dramatic, but I'm saying it for a reason: 

a) There are medical conditions that can cause low testosterone that need to be addressed
b) There are medical conditions that can result from low testosterone (osteoporosis, anemia, etc.) that need to be addressed asap
c)  E.D. is usually primarily cardiovascular (although you obviously have a psychological component) and so you need a wellness check at a minimum to make sure all is well.

Anyway, I could mention a couple of other points, but you get the idea:  your issues could very well be your body's way of saying, "Hey!  Something is wrong - I need some attention."  And so you need to find a good doc that will work with you on prices and lab testing and so on. 

You may be thinking, "That's easy for all you guys with insurance to say!"  And to that I can't really say much, eh?

2.  Now, as far as the supplements, kcwebguy will be the first to tell you that you may want to implement them one by one.  That way you can tell which help and which, potentially, do the opposite.  For example, he had a bad time with Maca and found that it hammered his erectile strength.

3.  Your supplement plan and looks great overall:  make sure your fish oil isn't rancid (and full of PCB's) and your new foods as well:  remember that juices can interact with medications.

4.  I'm plant-based and think that's the way to go.  However, I am certainly in the minority on this forum in that regard and am not trying to force that on anyone.  The Mediterranean and DASH Diets have some great benefits and allow some meat.  Maybe you want to consider those options?

Gotta run.  Let us know what works and what doesn't for you.  Most of the stuff we're doing hasn't been directly studied and we're all a little different, so we all need the feedback.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on June 22, 2012, 02:07:01 am
Thank you for the replies and encouragement. I do feel better just knowing I am actually doing something instead of my usual ignoring of it.
As to the T testing, I highly doubt its that, as I don't seem to fit the symptom profile except for the ED when actually having sex as opposed to porn use, which is when it seems to work just fine. But I have found a place to get tested and I am going to do it sometime next week if I get a break at work.
the porn thing I mentioned is something on my mind lately. I decided to try and stop using it a week or two ago, and I am wondering if so many years of usage has been a negative on me all this time. TMI, I am sure, but I really think it has a part in my issues.

Have to sleep. I follow up soon with any news.
Again, thanks
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 22, 2012, 04:07:20 am
Well, a couple of comments on the porn:

--Some guys comment that it kind of has a "supraphysiological" effect, i.e. it's almost like it helps them mask an underlying condition.  If that is true - and there is no studies to confirm/deny this - then you could have an underlying condition that the extra neurological stimulation helps mask, kind of the equivalent of taking extra Viagra/Cialis or something.  Again, that's just based on anecdotal descriptions of a few of the guys and wild speculation on my part...

--Some guys feel it leads to densensitization. 

--Some guys stay up late with bright lights and thus hammers their melatonin and sleep.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Cronos on June 22, 2012, 05:15:28 am
Welcome to the forum. Porn definitely has a desensitizing effect and can potentially negatively hardwire your brain against normal sex so i would stop all together. Just my opinion. but something else I would like to note. When you're looking at porn you probably have no anxiety and you're completely relaxed are you not? If you have no problems when you look at porn but have problems with a woman then it may be mental such as anxiety as well as partially physical. And/or as peak t said the increased visual/audio stimulation has a supraphysiological effect.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: kcwebguy on June 22, 2012, 12:08:18 pm
I agree with Cronos completely. Lose it altogether or greatly limit its use in your life.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 22, 2012, 01:24:04 pm
And, for most guys, it's highly addictive.  I have had many guys writing in over the years - they don't admit this on the forum usually though - that have masturbated 6+ times per day.  Well, you know, that's all tied to porn (and probably an OCD personality).  Obviously, this just isn't a normal healthy lifestyle and attests to the highly addictive nature of the stuff.  And it's not just guys now:  females are getting hooked to.

The addictions no one wants to talk about that are highly pervasive through society are prescription meds and pornography.  I don't think anyone will dispute that one...
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on June 23, 2012, 12:27:55 am
Porn definitely has had a major negative effect- for all the reasons mentioned, I think. I have no anxiety using it, there is an extra stimulation that probably does help mask bad health, and it is addictive. Most of all I find that over the years it has rewired my brain in a way.
I have completely cut it off for 2 weeks now and I am finding myself dealing with some of the "withdrawal" symptoms mentioned around the web. Moodiness,  low energy, anxiety and depression..Its crazy.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Anon123 on June 23, 2012, 08:02:22 pm
I agree entirely with the porn thing. It's been a major issue for me.

So now I have K9 Web Protect, a free programme. Give the password to a trusted person (one who does not have a pron problem) and hey presto, you can't look at porn on your computer.

You would also be advised to get rid of your smart phone or iphone/ipod.

Now, I can't look at porn and it's such a comfort knowing that when I am weak, my web filter is strong and I can't look at that stuff. :-)

Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on June 23, 2012, 09:59:10 pm
After reading through that site (ybop) I have to admit I may have had more of an issue with porn than I realized. I fit some of those behaviors and symptoms to a T. If what that site states is true (and in my experience, I think it holds alot of truth) then I think much of my problem IS porn related.

No matter though, as I see it as almost a blessing that its lead me to where I am. I am no longer just interested in restoring full sexual health, but full overall health as well. Exercising, nutrition, supplementation eetc over these last few months has left me feeling physically better than I have in a long long time.

I have awakened a desire - a goal really- to become the healthiest I can be, and to enjoy my life as I haven't before. I don't know its so different now. I have had this problem, on and off, for years. Yet my reaction to it and my attitude towards it has completely changed.
I think reading about how to make myself actually healthier as opposed to covering up my symptoms with anti-depressants or viagra, gives me real motivation.   
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 24, 2012, 12:52:04 am
Well, no one can argue with any of that!
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: itsme on June 26, 2012, 03:52:10 am
I wanted to revisit the comment Peak T made about OCD, masturbation, and porn.  I guess I really never put all three together and realized how that combination can make any man a slave.  There are so many degrees of OCD, but just leaning in the direction of porn makes this a deadly duo.  I must admitt that, I too, was caught in the jaws of porn that is so hard to break free from.  I know that this forum is not about one's faith or religion, but I have to declare that it was only by the supernatural grace and strength of my Lord Jesus that I have been set free.  Enough said!!!  Watching porn and masturbating always left me in a state of guilt and feeling dirty, with a bad self image.  Could it be true that self pleasuring is in itself a "selfish" act?  Are we not more than masterbating monkeys like those at the zoo.  I do not mean this in a condesending way.  I am just referring to mankind in general.  Nor, I am trying to push my convictions on anybody else.  I just hated being held captive by the power of porn and masturbation.  It really turns me on when I can bring sheer sexual ectasy to my loving wife.  Without doubts for me, porn and masturbation can never come close to the joy I get from pleasuring my wife.  That is why I came to this forum in the first place---  to insure that I can have excellent erections for my wife for years to come. 
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 26, 2012, 03:58:11 am
Well, the way I see it - and I'm not trying to force my views on anyone - is that you kind of have two basic ways to go in life with your woman:  romance or the "animal"/porn route.  Right now the latter philosophy is dominant in American culture.

However, that's not really true in other cultures.  For example, in the Latin culture there is a lot of romance where you really treat the woman with tremendous respect and put her "on a pedestal" so to speak. 

Of course, there are many problems in the Latin culture with men and women - it's certainly not perfect - but they really know how to romance their women.  You can see it in the music.

Here's a challenge for you:  name one gringo romantic love song.  It's very tough to come up with one.

In the Latin culture, they are very common with incredibly impressive lyrics and melodies, etc.

That's my two cents...
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: itsme on June 26, 2012, 04:13:58 am
As usual, your 2 cents yields great dividends.  Although not a latin song, I love the oldie "A Rose in Spanish Harlem". 
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: makingsteel on June 26, 2012, 04:30:58 am
Many of the oldies of the 60s and 70s were love songs especially from groups like the 4 tops, spinners, Marvin Gaye, TP. Uh oh I am dating myself. And to modern day Luther Vandross. I sure miss him. He was the love balladeer!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gu2JBMNBbKo&feature=related

Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 26, 2012, 01:11:15 pm
Many of the oldies of the 60s and 70s were love songs especially from groups like the 4 tops, spinners, Marvin Gaye, TP. Uh oh I am dating myself. And to modern day Luther Vandross. I sure miss him. He was the love balladeer!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gu2JBMNBbKo&feature=related

Nice and great points.  Something happened in the 60's and 70's, eh?

The irony is that women respond to romance like nothing else.  Just look at them with the early Beatles concerts, where the songs were somewhat "romantic":  those young females were screaming like maniacs, worse than any male Cubs crowd at Wrigley.  Wouldn't it be smart to tap into that just a little bit? 

I mean Justin Bieber, who isn't the best looking kid from what I've read, would probably get mauled in public by any reasonably sized crown of teen girls.  They wouldn't mean to kill him, but they wouldn't be able to help themselves. 

And I don't think it's too late no matter what your age either.  Given half a chance, I think a group of cougars would have torn apart Elvis Presley even when he was about 60 pounds overweight given half a chance...
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: itsme on June 26, 2012, 09:01:55 pm
Yes, the music and the women have definitely changed from the 60's, 70's, and 80's.  My brother-in-law told me a while back that his wife frequently used a sex toy to get her sexual pleasure.  This disturbed him greatly, seeing that she chose the vibrator over him.  Now, he is a good looking guy from Columbia S. America, and I know for a fact that he has been approached by other women wanting a fling.  He has had several prostate infections.  What is wrong with couples now-a-days.  Men masturbating to porn and women using roger rabbit vibrators for the quick and easy way to climax.  Romancing a woman takes time and lots of effort.  But it is worth it.  I really do believe that we all are way to selfish when it comes to making love.  We want it quick and easy......I'm sure 3D porn is on the next horizon. 
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on June 27, 2012, 12:40:59 am
Yeah, romance is all but dead. I think one of the reasons I started turning to porn and developing issues was the number of times I would have romantic notions only to find that women I was meeting all just wanted a lay!. I guess being a musician may have attracted more of that type back then, but nowadays I find it hard to tell what women want.. and romance seems to be the last thing on anyones mind.
Career, stability, chemistry, kink, FWBs... even normal, everyday women I meet seem to be all about those things. I don't even think in terms of romance anymore.. and I was a textbook romantic when I was young. Being latin almost made it mandatory back then.
Its a strange world out there now.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 27, 2012, 02:46:52 am
Okay, now I'm shocked to hear that...Well, I guess maybe males and females aren't as different as we might think...
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: makingsteel on June 27, 2012, 06:16:12 am
At the turn of the century woman went to Dr's for a condition that needed a vibrator. Woman using a vibrator is not a reflection on the man but it's on the woman.

Romancing a woman is great but every time you have sex?
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on June 27, 2012, 01:45:38 pm
Well, from what I've read, most women don't just want a vibrator.  I mean they can do that themselves.  It may be that that woman felt she could not have an orgasm without it.  Most women - I think anyway! - want the physical closeness and intimacy that comes from intercourse.  Unless, of course, women really aren't from Venus?
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: itsme on June 27, 2012, 01:58:16 pm
Centaur:  thanks for your frankness and openness in your responses.  I do believe that laying it all out there is most important when seeking answers........itsme
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on July 07, 2012, 03:01:43 am
Update:
Well, things finally progressed with the lady I am seeing. She came over last Saturday and I made dinner... what was going to happen was obvious, so I was nervous and apprehensive about performing, but I did my best to not think about it too much as we talked and ate.
So I'm glad to report a success! well, with caveats.
As we moved into the bedroom I found myself trapped up in my head again, checking for signs of life and not noticing much. Eventually, I knew she was wndering so I told her that I was having problems lately in that department, but that I was "working on it". I also admitted to her that I get a  bit nervous, but that I assumed my problem may be physical. How demoralizing!
God, it sucks.
Anyway, we laid there for a bit and she asked me if I was sure I had a problem. I said, "isn't it a bit obvious?" lol. Well, she proceeded to "stimulate" more intensely, if you catch my drift and lo and behold... I was all ready. Of course come time to use protection I assumed I would lose it, but to my amazement, I did not.. and we proceeded to enjoy ourselves to completion! (well, lets be honest- my completion, I doubt hers).
This, gentlemen, Is what we call progress. Not perfect, but getting better. I'm still nervous, my head still worries too much.. but I have another date with her tomorrow and an old "friend" wants to come by on Sunday..
Lets see how it goes... I normally refuse to date more than one woman at a time, but I think I need to and no-one has mentioned relationships... so I am going ahead with it.

Two other caveats as well. 1. I was able to maintain an erection throughout easliy once I got it, but it was (or felt) smaller and less "full" than when I was masturbating to porn regularly. 2. I seem to need an excessive amount of stimulation... any ideas as to what I can do about increasing sensitivity? what is that about anyway?

Thank you Mr Myers for all your help, books and information. After months of searching for help, yours is the only site that really has helped!
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 07, 2012, 04:17:12 am
Centaur,

Thx for taking time to detail that experience:  believe me that about 100 other guys reading this will be able to relate. 

I think you had a much bigger success than you realize.  It sounds like you may need to work a bit on 1) libido and 2) confidence.  Both of these can be improved, so you've just got a bit more work to do. 

Stop and think of this: if you can achieve in relatively short order an erection and maintain it, then you know you've got what it takes.  Now you're "fine tuning", eh?

Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on July 07, 2012, 09:00:51 pm
Yeah, I see your point PeakT.
About libido, its a weird thing. I am constantly thinking about sex, lately I wake up with full on erection nearly every morning since I started your program of diet and supps. But the instant I get a date, or things move into "action" territory, my mind gets tied up in worrying and my libido and desire start flying out the window. Just knowing I have a date coming up is enough to get me more wired up and worried.
sigh
The good news is I should be getting insurance from my new job soon, so I'll be able to get my T levels checked soon.

But it is progress, so you are right. I need to keep my focus on that.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 08, 2012, 12:25:42 am
Yeah, I see your point PeakT.
About libido, its a weird thing. I am constantly thinking about sex, lately I wake up with full on erection nearly every morning since I started your program of diet and supps. But the instant I get a date, or things move into "action" territory, my mind gets tied up in worrying and my libido and desire start flying out the window. Just knowing I have a date coming up is enough to get me more wired up and worried.
sigh
The good news is I should be getting insurance from my new job soon, so I'll be able to get my T levels checked soon.

But it is progress, so you are right. I need to keep my focus on that.

Well, physically it's all there based on what you wrote above.  Now, physically at least, you can just maintain and improve.

I think some men, unfortunately, actually associate women after a certain point with pain and humiliation.  This is not a good place to be in, of course, but a good woman can make everything all right again... 
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: makingsteel on July 08, 2012, 04:38:53 am
" but a good woman can make everything all right again."..

 A good woman or the right woman is always the ANTIDOTE!!!

Centaur; Your main problem is obvious. Performance is all what's up in your head. Forget performance next time and try other things to turn her on instead of yourself. Build her up and she will beg for you to be in. At that time you will be like a Diamond Cutter , ready to cut glass.

Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Centaur on July 08, 2012, 03:09:31 pm
"I think some men, unfortunately, actually associate women after a certain point with pain and humiliation.  This is not a good place to be in, of course, but a good woman can make everything all right again... "- PeakT

Whoooa.
That just hit me like a sledgehammer to the face. pain and humiliation- yet, I can't think of anything a woman may have done to make that resonate so powerfully to me. But that discribes the feeling, in a way I never would have thought of.
This is not a board about psyche induced ED.. so I'll have to think on this and find some answers for myself, but you may well have hit the nail on the head. When I am with a woman, the first date I feel fine- courtship is fun.. then sadness, depression, humiliation describe the exact underlying feelings I get as things progress.
I wasnt like that when I was younger, so why now?

Thanks PeakT.. I never would have thought of that.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 08, 2012, 09:38:01 pm
Yeah, and I think there are many ways to overcome it.  But it will be different with every guy, depending on his experiences, personality and current situation...
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Kroyals on July 18, 2012, 03:10:32 am
Wow....first time on this forum.  Great discussions and honesty. 
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 18, 2012, 05:33:42 am
Welcome!

Part of the problem is that our libido is normally so strong that it's almost out of control.  So a woman cannot fathom that anything could stop it other than disinterest, an affair, etc.   
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Anon123 on July 18, 2012, 01:15:49 pm
Welcome!

Part of the problem is that our libido is normally so strong that it's almost out of control.  So a woman cannot fathom that anything could stop it other than disinterest, an affair, etc.
Would that not be more like that when we are in our teens and twenties? I mean after that, things do tend to die down for every man (or most men?). I know very well that I am 30 now, and it is clear to me that I am, sadly, no longer 22. Or 17.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 18, 2012, 01:53:02 pm

Would that not be more like that when we are in our teens and twenties? I mean after that, things do tend to die down for every man (or most men?). I know very well that I am 30 now, and it is clear to me that I am, sadly, no longer 22. Or 17.

A healthy male in his 30's normally has a very powerful libido.  Most healthy men struggle to stay in control and not do anything stupid at this age.  We were built to procreate, be with a partner and other libido-required lifestyles that ensured our survival after all.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Anon123 on July 18, 2012, 05:32:21 pm

Would that not be more like that when we are in our teens and twenties? I mean after that, things do tend to die down for every man (or most men?). I know very well that I am 30 now, and it is clear to me that I am, sadly, no longer 22. Or 17.

A healthy male in his 30's normally has a very powerful libido.  Most healthy men struggle to stay in control and not do anything stupid at this age.  We were built to procreate, be with a partner and other libido-required lifestyles that ensured our survival after all.

And yet each man has a different sex drive, so whilst some may be nearly 'out of control', others have a lower sex drive, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are not healthy. I think the age for which a man would be at risk of being out of control would be the 'wild' teens or twenties, but after that, by both self-mastery and maturity, greater control and common sense should prevail.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 18, 2012, 06:05:08 pm
both self-mastery and maturity, greater control and common sense should prevail.
Well, it's hard to argue against these.  The only thing I'm a little concerned about with what you are saying is that it could easily turn into the "low-libido-is-just-a-normal-part-of-aging" philosophy.  This is the kind of thing that doctors are constantly telling us and I assert that a solid libido is a part of being healthy male of almost any age.  However, all of that said, I completely agree with what I think you are saying, i.e. that cooler head prevail and self-discipline should be an ever-growing part of your life.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Anon123 on July 18, 2012, 07:00:09 pm
both self-mastery and maturity, greater control and common sense should prevail.
Well, it's hard to argue against these.  The only thing I'm a little concerned about with what you are saying is that it could easily turn into the "low-libido-is-just-a-normal-part-of-aging" philosophy.  This is the kind of thing that doctors are constantly telling us and I assert that a solid libido is a part of being healthy male of almost any age.  However, all of that said, I completely agree with what I think you are saying, i.e. that cooler head prevail and self-discipline should be an ever-growing part of your life.
But isn't it? In primitive times, we wouldn't have lived much beyond 40, so the reproductive years would have been the teens and twenties. I'd be skeptical of any guy who says his libido is just the same as it was when he was 18.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 18, 2012, 08:48:59 pm
Oh, I agree with that.  To be honest, I don't want my libido to be like it was when I was 18!  It's kind of nice to be able to think straight if you know what I mean.  I'm just saying that if your libido is low, you should look into why and not just assume that that is a normal part of aging.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: Anon123 on July 19, 2012, 12:13:49 am
Oh, I agree with that.  To be honest, I don't want my libido to be like it was when I was 18!  It's kind of nice to be able to think straight if you know what I mean.  I'm just saying that if your libido is low, you should look into why and not just assume that that is a normal part of aging.

Well I don't even know what's normal lol. I just feel things have slowed up. I know I saw some attractive lady on a magazine or newspaper cover and I felt nothing. It was like I knew she was attractive but I didn't feel any rush like before.

Anyway, with some depression, ad sleeping apttern due to late internet nights, colitis medication, (possibly diminished T from varicoceles), unemployment, lack of exercise, and generally feeling sorry for myself, I guess that takes its toll on the body. I had been exercising when I was working every day, but now I've fallen back into bad ways.
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: PeakT on July 19, 2012, 03:35:31 am
Derm:  I think you've got a good attitude about it in the sense that there's no point in getting all stressful about it.  But I respectfully disagree about the magazine cover thing.  You should feel something.  Again, don't panic, but just keep working at it.

You've got a lot going on and I know that and I think we all have sympathy for the unemployment, etc.  Again, just don't give up and keep working at it and you're going to have some good stories to tell someday...
Title: Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
Post by: spiderman on July 19, 2012, 05:24:59 am
"Well I don't even know what's normal lol. I just feel things have slowed up. I know I saw some attractive lady on a magazine or newspaper cover and I felt nothing. It was like I knew she was attractive but I didn't feel any rush like before."

Hey Derm...been there..impossible to get any kind of rush when the its last thing on your mind and as we all know there is no interest in ANYTHING when you are depressed..
We all need the feel good factors in our heads before you are going to get any kind of "rush" from checkin attractive woman out again. Its a battle to get those endorphines going again and too easy just to give up but don't...The whole libido/drive thing will come back but you have to help yourself and fight...