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Re: How can I help my husband
« Reply #15 on: March 21, 2013, 04:58:03 pm »
I love my Husband more than anything and I just want him to know that and will stand by him no matter what.

humble68: I admire your love and commitment to your husband.  Not sure what your spiritual beliefs are, but praying for him will help.  My wife has endured my "issues" patiently, and has been frustrated to the breaking point many times.  She's always been respectful in approaching me and asking me to do my part.  But when she let go and let God work on me, she started to see things change.  Our relationship and sex life have both improved a lot.  My attitude, weight, consideration of her needs, and "active-ness" have improved, thanks to her love and commitment to me (like yours to your husband), patience, and prayers.  I'll keep you guys in mine.  Don't give up!

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Re: How can I help my husband
« Reply #16 on: March 21, 2013, 05:07:57 pm »
I just wanted to say a few things here in defense of the wives of men with Low T.

We are all suffering from this condition. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship with a man who shows no interest in you sexually. Or really any other way for that matter. It smashes your self esteem when he doesn't act one bit interested for weeks, months or even years.

It becomes even harder to maintain any amount of self confidence as women age. At least when you are young you occasionally get admiring glances or comments from other men but that decreases with age. And that is something that is sometimes hard to just take as a compliment and not act on too. Note there is no disrespect meant toward my husband here, but that is another thing he didn't even care about over the years.

Not only do women involved with Low T men not have much self confidence but there is always that nagging fear that if he doesn't want you, he must be getting his satisfaction elsewhere.

My husband feels so foggy, depressed and has almost no memory most of the time. He can't even pursue his own treatment. All he does is work eat and sleep. And so as the loving wife who wants to see a change, all of the research, telephone calls, appointment setting, and general management of the problem as well as all other household duties fall to me. I raised our 4 kids pretty much by myself and I'm even the one who works on our cars.

Quite frankly there have been times when I just want to scream MAN UP!!! And honestly, I probably have at times. And Doctors only promote the crazy by not taking this condition seriously.

I celebrated my 18th wedding anniversary with my husband yesterday and we have been together for 22 years but it has not been easy to make it this far.

So I have to applaud any woman who is in my situation and seeks to help her husband through this. The ride is rough and the benefits may seem really slim for a long time. But hopefully this will be a place where women can come and get the information they need to better the situation and help the husbands who are too low to help themselves.

Thumbs up to Ms. Humble86 and Ms. Anonymous11
And thank you to all of the men sharing knowledge here for the benefit of us all.

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Re: How can I help my husband
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« Reply #17 on: March 21, 2013, 05:25:38 pm »
I just wanted to say a few things here in defense of the wives of men with Low T.

We are all suffering from this condition. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship with a man who shows no interest in you sexually. Or really any other way for that matter. It smashes your self esteem when he doesn't act one bit interested for weeks, months or even years.

It becomes even harder to maintain any amount of self confidence as women age. At least when you are young you occasionally get admiring glances or comments from other men but that decreases with age. And that is something that is sometimes hard to just take as a compliment and not act on too. Note there is no disrespect meant toward my husband here, but that is another thing he didn't even care about over the years.

Not only do women involved with Low T men not have much self confidence but there is always that nagging fear that if he doesn't want you, he must be getting his satisfaction elsewhere.

My husband feels so foggy, depressed and has almost no memory most of the time. He can't even pursue his own treatment. All he does is work eat and sleep. And so as the loving wife who wants to see a change, all of the research, telephone calls, appointment setting, and general management of the problem as well as all other household duties fall to me. I raised our 4 kids pretty much by myself and I'm even the one who works on our cars.

Quite frankly there have been times when I just want to scream MAN UP!!! And honestly, I probably have at times. And Doctors only promote the crazy by not taking this condition seriously.

I celebrated my 18th wedding anniversary with my husband yesterday and we have been together for 22 years but it has not been easy to make it this far.

So I have to applaud any woman who is in my situation and seeks to help her husband through this. The ride is rough and the benefits may seem really slim for a long time. But hopefully this will be a place where women can come and get the information they need to better the situation and help the husbands who are too low to help themselves.

Thumbs up to Ms. Humble86 and Ms. Anonymous11
And thank you to all of the men sharing knowledge here for the benefit of us all.

It is very common to get men saying that they have lost or almost lost relationships due to low testosterone.  I am sure that low nitric oxide would have the same track record.

One comment:  there is a book by Sloan Teeple, a urologist, on his experience with low T and how it affect his relationship with his wife.  I haven't read it yet, but I'm sure it's a good read:

http://www.amazon.com/Still-Sexy-Whats-Him-Testosterone/dp/B00AZ90524/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1363886714&sr=8-1&keywords=sloan+teeple

THE MOST COMPREHENSIVE BOOK ON TRT/TESTOSTERONE:
https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Versus-Testosterone-Therapy-Myer/dp/1523210532/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499116128&sr=8-1&keywords=natural+versus+testosterone+therapy
And check out my New Peak Testosterone Program: http://www.peaktestosterone.com/peak_testosterone_program
If you are on medications or have a medical condition, always check with your doctor first before making any lifestyle changes or taking new supplements.  And low testosterone is a medical condition.

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Re: How can I help my husband
« Reply #18 on: March 22, 2013, 09:12:23 pm »
PeakT
I read this book and it is a great place to begin to understand Low T. It is an easy read and gives lots of the same information you give on your website but not quite as in depth. I would say it is more beginner friendly.

It gives some really great tips for wives on approaching their husbands about Low T and acknowledges the feelings both men and women are likely to go through.

I would say the information is beneficial for anyone who suspects that they or their loved one has Low T but especially good for women who suspect that their husband could have this problem.

If any of the women (or men) that come to this board would like to read this book and they have a kindle I would be willing to loan this title if they PM me.

Thanks for the recommendation

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Re: How can I help my husband
« Reply #19 on: March 23, 2013, 12:12:38 am »
PeakT
I read this book and it is a great place to begin to understand Low T. It is an easy read and gives lots of the same information you give on your website but not quite as in depth. I would say it is more beginner friendly.

It gives some really great tips for wives on approaching their husbands about Low T and acknowledges the feelings both men and women are likely to go through.

I would say the information is beneficial for anyone who suspects that they or their loved one has Low T but especially good for women who suspect that their husband could have this problem.

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Thanks for the recommendation

Glad to hear it.  I thought it would be:  I spoke with Dr. Teeple on the phone and he seems like the kind of person that really want to do the right thing for his patients and stay on top of his field.  So it's nice to hear he's a good author as well!

If you get a chance, I'm sure he love for you to put a review in Amazon.
THE MOST COMPREHENSIVE BOOK ON TRT/TESTOSTERONE:
https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Versus-Testosterone-Therapy-Myer/dp/1523210532/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499116128&sr=8-1&keywords=natural+versus+testosterone+therapy
And check out my New Peak Testosterone Program: http://www.peaktestosterone.com/peak_testosterone_program
If you are on medications or have a medical condition, always check with your doctor first before making any lifestyle changes or taking new supplements.  And low testosterone is a medical condition.

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« Reply #20 on: March 23, 2013, 05:23:14 pm »
I also looked around on his (Dr. Sloan Teeple's) website and he has a link where you can send him an email and he will help you find a T Specialist in your area.

Might be helpful if anyone is looking.
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« Reply #21 on: March 23, 2013, 05:32:41 pm »
I also looked around on his website and he has a link where you can send him an email and he will help you find a T Specialist in your area.

Might be helpful if anyone is looking.

Can you PM that to me so I can check it out?
THE MOST COMPREHENSIVE BOOK ON TRT/TESTOSTERONE:
https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Versus-Testosterone-Therapy-Myer/dp/1523210532/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499116128&sr=8-1&keywords=natural+versus+testosterone+therapy
And check out my New Peak Testosterone Program: http://www.peaktestosterone.com/peak_testosterone_program
If you are on medications or have a medical condition, always check with your doctor first before making any lifestyle changes or taking new supplements.  And low testosterone is a medical condition.

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Re: How can I help my husband
« Reply #21 on: March 23, 2013, 05:32:41 pm »