Oxytocin is released in men I think less. One of the most significant release is orgasm after sex. Oxytocin is the “bonding” hormone. So this is why I believe men want “make up sex”. As it is subconscious that after an argument or disagreement having sex reconnects him with his spouse due to the oxytocin hormone bonding effect.
Wives also report their husband will not talk or open up or state feelings EXCEPT after sex and then can hardly get him to shut up. Again this is the work and result of the bonding effect of oxytocin.
Women cannot understand why or how men can and want or even “need” to have sex after an argument. They do not understand the important effect of bonding sex has due to the oxytocin. If wives were taught tjis, and if they really want to reconnect and have her husband reconnect with them, they would be more apt to “sacrifice” and have sex because she would gain more than she lost by “giving in”.
In women huge dump of oxytocin is released when breast feeding a newborn. Again this is on purpose as it is tremendous bonding power between the mother and child. It also can be a help to have breast and nipple stimulation of the woman in foreplay to release oxytocin and get her more interested in sex and the bonding between the couple.
I think oxytocin is also released in women when they are “talking” in an emotional talk.
It is maddening. God created women to “need” to feel connected through talking etc (oxytocin) BEFORE they want or desire to have sex. They want to feel close first and then have sex. Men are wired exactly the opposite. They want/need sex to have the oxytocin dump in order to feel close and want to talk and bond.
So is low T and no sex, one of the largest dumps of oxytocin is also removed. Then it is a self perpetuating spiral of no desire to do anything, sports, hunting career and no corresponding oxytocin with those activities which leads to remoteness with spouse and the negative spiral continues.