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Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« on: June 19, 2012, 09:15:53 pm »
First off I want to thank Lee Myer for his book and information. There are very few people who would as much, so freely. The information in your book and website has been a Godsend so far.

I am 43, no major illnesses, but an exsmoker and never ever worked out or ate well. After I quit smoking several years ago I did gain weight, but not too much. Anyway, I have always had what I considered to be anxiety related issues with sex- especially with a first time experience with someone new. Of course its only grown more problematic with age. Over the past few years I have noticed it gettting worse and started avoiding talking to women out of several bad experiences where they did not handle my problem very well...which only makes it worse.
I also recently met a beautiful lady who I have begun becoming intimate with, and already I had one "failure to launch"..so this needs to kick in quick!
I haven't had my T tested (I have no health insurance, so there is that) but I don't suspect it is the problem.
Anyway, I have finally decided to not allow this to go on anymore and to do something about it. I started working out a few months ago, eating better (not a vegetarian, just can't do it yet) and taking supplements. But most of the supplements just made it worse at times.
In comes Peak T, and I think I understand why to some extent. I was trying herbs and formulas that weren't addressing my health issues.
So I am now on a good multivit. I just started ALA/ALC as per the book, and I just got S-PS today, although I havent tried it yet.
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Fish oil
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vit C/Magnesium/zinc
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And I have added most of the suggestions to my diet (Beets, apple/pomengranate juice, cacao, etc)


So the journey begins. I just had to join and thank the author as well as some posters here, as I have been lurking now for a bit and the info has been great.

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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #1 on: June 20, 2012, 12:30:08 am »
Welcome! This will likely be one of the most important journeys of the rest of your life. Forget everything you thought you knew about nutrition and wellness. Take lots of deep breaths and just read and read and read. Don't go crazy with the supplements. Focus on changing your diet and exercise.

“Patience, Neo. The answers are coming.” —Morpheus to Neo

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Also, pay the money to see a doc, get your blood drawn with a T level check. It's worth it. And there are many low cost testosterone treatments available if you need it. And you probably need it, friend.  8)

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« Reply #2 on: June 20, 2012, 05:24:46 am »
Hey, I genuinely appreciate the encouragement and am glad something has helped.  My goal was always to save men the hours and hours and hours of research that I had to do when I first started out.

I've just got a few minutes here so that I follow my own advice and actually get a little sleep at least:

1.  I very much agree with kcwebguy:  you want to figure out some way to work with a doc.  There are ways to manage it so that it's not too expensive.  But erectile dysfunction and potentially low testosterone should always be treated as medical conditions.  I know that may sound overly dramatic, but I'm saying it for a reason: 

a) There are medical conditions that can cause low testosterone that need to be addressed
b) There are medical conditions that can result from low testosterone (osteoporosis, anemia, etc.) that need to be addressed asap
c)  E.D. is usually primarily cardiovascular (although you obviously have a psychological component) and so you need a wellness check at a minimum to make sure all is well.

Anyway, I could mention a couple of other points, but you get the idea:  your issues could very well be your body's way of saying, "Hey!  Something is wrong - I need some attention."  And so you need to find a good doc that will work with you on prices and lab testing and so on. 

You may be thinking, "That's easy for all you guys with insurance to say!"  And to that I can't really say much, eh?

2.  Now, as far as the supplements, kcwebguy will be the first to tell you that you may want to implement them one by one.  That way you can tell which help and which, potentially, do the opposite.  For example, he had a bad time with Maca and found that it hammered his erectile strength.

3.  Your supplement plan and looks great overall:  make sure your fish oil isn't rancid (and full of PCB's) and your new foods as well:  remember that juices can interact with medications.

4.  I'm plant-based and think that's the way to go.  However, I am certainly in the minority on this forum in that regard and am not trying to force that on anyone.  The Mediterranean and DASH Diets have some great benefits and allow some meat.  Maybe you want to consider those options?

Gotta run.  Let us know what works and what doesn't for you.  Most of the stuff we're doing hasn't been directly studied and we're all a little different, so we all need the feedback.
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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #3 on: June 22, 2012, 02:07:01 am »
Thank you for the replies and encouragement. I do feel better just knowing I am actually doing something instead of my usual ignoring of it.
As to the T testing, I highly doubt its that, as I don't seem to fit the symptom profile except for the ED when actually having sex as opposed to porn use, which is when it seems to work just fine. But I have found a place to get tested and I am going to do it sometime next week if I get a break at work.
the porn thing I mentioned is something on my mind lately. I decided to try and stop using it a week or two ago, and I am wondering if so many years of usage has been a negative on me all this time. TMI, I am sure, but I really think it has a part in my issues.

Have to sleep. I follow up soon with any news.
Again, thanks

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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #3 on: June 22, 2012, 02:07:01 am »


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« Reply #4 on: June 22, 2012, 04:07:20 am »
Well, a couple of comments on the porn:

--Some guys comment that it kind of has a "supraphysiological" effect, i.e. it's almost like it helps them mask an underlying condition.  If that is true - and there is no studies to confirm/deny this - then you could have an underlying condition that the extra neurological stimulation helps mask, kind of the equivalent of taking extra Viagra/Cialis or something.  Again, that's just based on anecdotal descriptions of a few of the guys and wild speculation on my part...

--Some guys feel it leads to densensitization. 

--Some guys stay up late with bright lights and thus hammers their melatonin and sleep.
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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #5 on: June 22, 2012, 05:15:28 am »
Welcome to the forum. Porn definitely has a desensitizing effect and can potentially negatively hardwire your brain against normal sex so i would stop all together. Just my opinion. but something else I would like to note. When you're looking at porn you probably have no anxiety and you're completely relaxed are you not? If you have no problems when you look at porn but have problems with a woman then it may be mental such as anxiety as well as partially physical. And/or as peak t said the increased visual/audio stimulation has a supraphysiological effect.
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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #6 on: June 22, 2012, 12:08:18 pm »
I agree with Cronos completely. Lose it altogether or greatly limit its use in your life.

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« Reply #7 on: June 22, 2012, 01:24:04 pm »
And, for most guys, it's highly addictive.  I have had many guys writing in over the years - they don't admit this on the forum usually though - that have masturbated 6+ times per day.  Well, you know, that's all tied to porn (and probably an OCD personality).  Obviously, this just isn't a normal healthy lifestyle and attests to the highly addictive nature of the stuff.  And it's not just guys now:  females are getting hooked to.

The addictions no one wants to talk about that are highly pervasive through society are prescription meds and pornography.  I don't think anyone will dispute that one...
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« Reply #8 on: June 23, 2012, 12:27:55 am »
Porn definitely has had a major negative effect- for all the reasons mentioned, I think. I have no anxiety using it, there is an extra stimulation that probably does help mask bad health, and it is addictive. Most of all I find that over the years it has rewired my brain in a way.
I have completely cut it off for 2 weeks now and I am finding myself dealing with some of the "withdrawal" symptoms mentioned around the web. Moodiness,  low energy, anxiety and depression..Its crazy.

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« Reply #9 on: June 23, 2012, 08:02:22 pm »
I agree entirely with the porn thing. It's been a major issue for me.

So now I have K9 Web Protect, a free programme. Give the password to a trusted person (one who does not have a pron problem) and hey presto, you can't look at porn on your computer.

You would also be advised to get rid of your smart phone or iphone/ipod.

Now, I can't look at porn and it's such a comfort knowing that when I am weak, my web filter is strong and I can't look at that stuff. :-)

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« Reply #10 on: June 23, 2012, 09:59:10 pm »
After reading through that site (ybop) I have to admit I may have had more of an issue with porn than I realized. I fit some of those behaviors and symptoms to a T. If what that site states is true (and in my experience, I think it holds alot of truth) then I think much of my problem IS porn related.

No matter though, as I see it as almost a blessing that its lead me to where I am. I am no longer just interested in restoring full sexual health, but full overall health as well. Exercising, nutrition, supplementation eetc over these last few months has left me feeling physically better than I have in a long long time.

I have awakened a desire - a goal really- to become the healthiest I can be, and to enjoy my life as I haven't before. I don't know its so different now. I have had this problem, on and off, for years. Yet my reaction to it and my attitude towards it has completely changed.
I think reading about how to make myself actually healthier as opposed to covering up my symptoms with anti-depressants or viagra, gives me real motivation.   

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« Reply #11 on: June 24, 2012, 12:52:04 am »
Well, no one can argue with any of that!
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« Reply #12 on: June 26, 2012, 03:52:10 am »
I wanted to revisit the comment Peak T made about OCD, masturbation, and porn.  I guess I really never put all three together and realized how that combination can make any man a slave.  There are so many degrees of OCD, but just leaning in the direction of porn makes this a deadly duo.  I must admitt that, I too, was caught in the jaws of porn that is so hard to break free from.  I know that this forum is not about one's faith or religion, but I have to declare that it was only by the supernatural grace and strength of my Lord Jesus that I have been set free.  Enough said!!!  Watching porn and masturbating always left me in a state of guilt and feeling dirty, with a bad self image.  Could it be true that self pleasuring is in itself a "selfish" act?  Are we not more than masterbating monkeys like those at the zoo.  I do not mean this in a condesending way.  I am just referring to mankind in general.  Nor, I am trying to push my convictions on anybody else.  I just hated being held captive by the power of porn and masturbation.  It really turns me on when I can bring sheer sexual ectasy to my loving wife.  Without doubts for me, porn and masturbation can never come close to the joy I get from pleasuring my wife.  That is why I came to this forum in the first place---  to insure that I can have excellent erections for my wife for years to come. 

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« Reply #13 on: June 26, 2012, 03:58:11 am »
Well, the way I see it - and I'm not trying to force my views on anyone - is that you kind of have two basic ways to go in life with your woman:  romance or the "animal"/porn route.  Right now the latter philosophy is dominant in American culture.

However, that's not really true in other cultures.  For example, in the Latin culture there is a lot of romance where you really treat the woman with tremendous respect and put her "on a pedestal" so to speak. 

Of course, there are many problems in the Latin culture with men and women - it's certainly not perfect - but they really know how to romance their women.  You can see it in the music.

Here's a challenge for you:  name one gringo romantic love song.  It's very tough to come up with one.

In the Latin culture, they are very common with incredibly impressive lyrics and melodies, etc.

That's my two cents...
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« Reply #14 on: June 26, 2012, 04:13:58 am »
As usual, your 2 cents yields great dividends.  Although not a latin song, I love the oldie "A Rose in Spanish Harlem". 

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