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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #15 on: June 26, 2012, 04:30:58 am »
Many of the oldies of the 60s and 70s were love songs especially from groups like the 4 tops, spinners, Marvin Gaye, TP. Uh oh I am dating myself. And to modern day Luther Vandross. I sure miss him. He was the love balladeer!

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« Reply #16 on: June 26, 2012, 01:11:15 pm »
Many of the oldies of the 60s and 70s were love songs especially from groups like the 4 tops, spinners, Marvin Gaye, TP. Uh oh I am dating myself. And to modern day Luther Vandross. I sure miss him. He was the love balladeer!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gu2JBMNBbKo&feature=related

Nice and great points.  Something happened in the 60's and 70's, eh?

The irony is that women respond to romance like nothing else.  Just look at them with the early Beatles concerts, where the songs were somewhat "romantic":  those young females were screaming like maniacs, worse than any male Cubs crowd at Wrigley.  Wouldn't it be smart to tap into that just a little bit? 

I mean Justin Bieber, who isn't the best looking kid from what I've read, would probably get mauled in public by any reasonably sized crown of teen girls.  They wouldn't mean to kill him, but they wouldn't be able to help themselves. 

And I don't think it's too late no matter what your age either.  Given half a chance, I think a group of cougars would have torn apart Elvis Presley even when he was about 60 pounds overweight given half a chance...
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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #16 on: June 26, 2012, 01:11:15 pm »


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« Reply #17 on: June 26, 2012, 09:01:55 pm »
Yes, the music and the women have definitely changed from the 60's, 70's, and 80's.  My brother-in-law told me a while back that his wife frequently used a sex toy to get her sexual pleasure.  This disturbed him greatly, seeing that she chose the vibrator over him.  Now, he is a good looking guy from Columbia S. America, and I know for a fact that he has been approached by other women wanting a fling.  He has had several prostate infections.  What is wrong with couples now-a-days.  Men masturbating to porn and women using roger rabbit vibrators for the quick and easy way to climax.  Romancing a woman takes time and lots of effort.  But it is worth it.  I really do believe that we all are way to selfish when it comes to making love.  We want it quick and easy......I'm sure 3D porn is on the next horizon. 

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« Reply #18 on: June 27, 2012, 12:40:59 am »
Yeah, romance is all but dead. I think one of the reasons I started turning to porn and developing issues was the number of times I would have romantic notions only to find that women I was meeting all just wanted a lay!. I guess being a musician may have attracted more of that type back then, but nowadays I find it hard to tell what women want.. and romance seems to be the last thing on anyones mind.
Career, stability, chemistry, kink, FWBs... even normal, everyday women I meet seem to be all about those things. I don't even think in terms of romance anymore.. and I was a textbook romantic when I was young. Being latin almost made it mandatory back then.
Its a strange world out there now.

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« Reply #18 on: June 27, 2012, 12:40:59 am »


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« Reply #19 on: June 27, 2012, 02:46:52 am »
Okay, now I'm shocked to hear that...Well, I guess maybe males and females aren't as different as we might think...
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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #20 on: June 27, 2012, 06:16:12 am »
At the turn of the century woman went to Dr's for a condition that needed a vibrator. Woman using a vibrator is not a reflection on the man but it's on the woman.

Romancing a woman is great but every time you have sex?

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« Reply #21 on: June 27, 2012, 01:45:38 pm »
Well, from what I've read, most women don't just want a vibrator.  I mean they can do that themselves.  It may be that that woman felt she could not have an orgasm without it.  Most women - I think anyway! - want the physical closeness and intimacy that comes from intercourse.  Unless, of course, women really aren't from Venus?
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« Reply #22 on: June 27, 2012, 01:58:16 pm »
Centaur:  thanks for your frankness and openness in your responses.  I do believe that laying it all out there is most important when seeking answers........itsme

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« Reply #23 on: July 07, 2012, 03:01:43 am »
Update:
Well, things finally progressed with the lady I am seeing. She came over last Saturday and I made dinner... what was going to happen was obvious, so I was nervous and apprehensive about performing, but I did my best to not think about it too much as we talked and ate.
So I'm glad to report a success! well, with caveats.
As we moved into the bedroom I found myself trapped up in my head again, checking for signs of life and not noticing much. Eventually, I knew she was wndering so I told her that I was having problems lately in that department, but that I was "working on it". I also admitted to her that I get a  bit nervous, but that I assumed my problem may be physical. How demoralizing!
God, it sucks.
Anyway, we laid there for a bit and she asked me if I was sure I had a problem. I said, "isn't it a bit obvious?" lol. Well, she proceeded to "stimulate" more intensely, if you catch my drift and lo and behold... I was all ready. Of course come time to use protection I assumed I would lose it, but to my amazement, I did not.. and we proceeded to enjoy ourselves to completion! (well, lets be honest- my completion, I doubt hers).
This, gentlemen, Is what we call progress. Not perfect, but getting better. I'm still nervous, my head still worries too much.. but I have another date with her tomorrow and an old "friend" wants to come by on Sunday..
Lets see how it goes... I normally refuse to date more than one woman at a time, but I think I need to and no-one has mentioned relationships... so I am going ahead with it.

Two other caveats as well. 1. I was able to maintain an erection throughout easliy once I got it, but it was (or felt) smaller and less "full" than when I was masturbating to porn regularly. 2. I seem to need an excessive amount of stimulation... any ideas as to what I can do about increasing sensitivity? what is that about anyway?

Thank you Mr Myers for all your help, books and information. After months of searching for help, yours is the only site that really has helped!

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« Reply #24 on: July 07, 2012, 04:17:12 am »
Centaur,

Thx for taking time to detail that experience:  believe me that about 100 other guys reading this will be able to relate. 

I think you had a much bigger success than you realize.  It sounds like you may need to work a bit on 1) libido and 2) confidence.  Both of these can be improved, so you've just got a bit more work to do. 

Stop and think of this: if you can achieve in relatively short order an erection and maintain it, then you know you've got what it takes.  Now you're "fine tuning", eh?

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« Reply #25 on: July 07, 2012, 09:00:51 pm »
Yeah, I see your point PeakT.
About libido, its a weird thing. I am constantly thinking about sex, lately I wake up with full on erection nearly every morning since I started your program of diet and supps. But the instant I get a date, or things move into "action" territory, my mind gets tied up in worrying and my libido and desire start flying out the window. Just knowing I have a date coming up is enough to get me more wired up and worried.
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The good news is I should be getting insurance from my new job soon, so I'll be able to get my T levels checked soon.

But it is progress, so you are right. I need to keep my focus on that.

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« Reply #26 on: July 08, 2012, 12:25:42 am »
Yeah, I see your point PeakT.
About libido, its a weird thing. I am constantly thinking about sex, lately I wake up with full on erection nearly every morning since I started your program of diet and supps. But the instant I get a date, or things move into "action" territory, my mind gets tied up in worrying and my libido and desire start flying out the window. Just knowing I have a date coming up is enough to get me more wired up and worried.
sigh
The good news is I should be getting insurance from my new job soon, so I'll be able to get my T levels checked soon.

But it is progress, so you are right. I need to keep my focus on that.

Well, physically it's all there based on what you wrote above.  Now, physically at least, you can just maintain and improve.

I think some men, unfortunately, actually associate women after a certain point with pain and humiliation.  This is not a good place to be in, of course, but a good woman can make everything all right again... 
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Re: Newbie Here, My story thus Far....
« Reply #27 on: July 08, 2012, 04:38:53 am »
" but a good woman can make everything all right again."..

 A good woman or the right woman is always the ANTIDOTE!!!

Centaur; Your main problem is obvious. Performance is all what's up in your head. Forget performance next time and try other things to turn her on instead of yourself. Build her up and she will beg for you to be in. At that time you will be like a Diamond Cutter , ready to cut glass.


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« Reply #28 on: July 08, 2012, 03:09:31 pm »
"I think some men, unfortunately, actually associate women after a certain point with pain and humiliation.  This is not a good place to be in, of course, but a good woman can make everything all right again... "- PeakT

Whoooa.
That just hit me like a sledgehammer to the face. pain and humiliation- yet, I can't think of anything a woman may have done to make that resonate so powerfully to me. But that discribes the feeling, in a way I never would have thought of.
This is not a board about psyche induced ED.. so I'll have to think on this and find some answers for myself, but you may well have hit the nail on the head. When I am with a woman, the first date I feel fine- courtship is fun.. then sadness, depression, humiliation describe the exact underlying feelings I get as things progress.
I wasnt like that when I was younger, so why now?

Thanks PeakT.. I never would have thought of that.

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« Reply #29 on: July 08, 2012, 09:38:01 pm »
Yeah, and I think there are many ways to overcome it.  But it will be different with every guy, depending on his experiences, personality and current situation...
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« Reply #29 on: July 08, 2012, 09:38:01 pm »