Well, things finally progressed with the lady I am seeing. She came over last Saturday and I made dinner... what was going to happen was obvious, so I was nervous and apprehensive about performing, but I did my best to not think about it too much as we talked and ate.
So I'm glad to report a success! well, with caveats.
As we moved into the bedroom I found myself trapped up in my head again, checking for signs of life and not noticing much. Eventually, I knew she was wndering so I told her that I was having problems lately in that department, but that I was "working on it". I also admitted to her that I get a bit nervous, but that I assumed my problem may be physical. How demoralizing!
God, it sucks.
Anyway, we laid there for a bit and she asked me if I was sure I had a problem. I said, "isn't it a bit obvious?" lol. Well, she proceeded to "stimulate" more intensely, if you catch my drift and lo and behold... I was all ready. Of course come time to use protection I assumed I would lose it, but to my amazement, I did not.. and we proceeded to enjoy ourselves to completion! (well, lets be honest- my completion, I doubt hers).
This, gentlemen, Is what we call progress. Not perfect, but getting better. I'm still nervous, my head still worries too much.. but I have another date with her tomorrow and an old "friend" wants to come by on Sunday..
Lets see how it goes... I normally refuse to date more than one woman at a time, but I think I need to and no-one has mentioned relationships... so I am going ahead with it.
Two other caveats as well. 1. I was able to maintain an erection throughout easliy once I got it, but it was (or felt) smaller and less "full" than when I was masturbating to porn regularly. 2. I seem to need an excessive amount of stimulation... any ideas as to what I can do about increasing sensitivity? what is that about anyway?
Thank you Mr Myers for all your help, books and information. After months of searching for help, yours is the only site that really has helped!